Miss Musings

A modern miss provides commentary on sociological and psychological issues concerning politics, the media, literature, and everyday observances.

Miss Conception: What is my ‘type’?

You know, the tanned skin, blue-eyed beaux? Albeit one definition, this is not the “type” I am referring to.

A personality charting system that has been particularly attractive to me lately is the Enneagram of personality. The Enneagram is a circle marked with nine equidistant points, each point representing a personality type.

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People tend to gravitate towards one type, but naturally, you may identify with qualities of others as well. The one you gravitate towards is called your basic personality type, and it represents your core personality; it cannot be changed.

One must also note that the Enneagram is gender-neutral. No one personality is predominantly masculine or feminine, unlike those of the Myers Briggs test. This is a major point of appeal, as the Enneagram does not have a bias regarding the traits of males and females, nor does it follow a psychological stereotype.

Getting curious about your type? Examine the descriptions below. The following titles come from the Enneagram Institute:

1 – The Reformer: Are you purposeful, self-controlled, and a perfectionist?

2 – The Helper: Are you munificent, overprotective, and a people-pleaser?

3 – The Achiever: Are you advanced, motivated, and adaptable?

4 – The Individualist: Are you theatrical, volatile, and animated?

5 – The Investigator: Are you insightful, innovative, and reticent?

6 – The Loyalist: Are you appealing, accountable, and anxious?

7 – The Enthusiast: Are you impulsive, scattered, and open?

8 – The Challenger: Are you forceful, forward, and competitive?

9 – The Peacemaker: Are you sympathetic, contented, and acquiescent?

As for me, I fall somewhere between type 3 (The Achiever) and type 5 (The Investigator), but I lean more towards type 5 on the Enneagram spectrum.

Read more about the Enneagram here. 

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My Tumultuous, Blood-Stained Battle with the Omnipresent Cliché

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Leave it to my parents to tell me that I am a good writer; I know my ability. Yet, growing up with a prolific older sister, I did not believe writing was or ever could be my territory. It seemed like an unknown world; it was akin to a sensuous piano of untapped keys that stared at me with white eyes, black pupils…

That is precisely how I wrote. I kid you not. I personified random instruments the same way a lonely romance writer would, but I, a mere 17-year-old lady, never cracked open one of those shirtless male-clad books.

This begs the question: why was my writing so cliché?

I want to blame my more immature pieces on my love of reading. Books make my brain hurt but my senses tingle, so I read a lot of stories when I was younger. This may have been a double-edged sword: I learned how to write well by reading the works of published authors, but I also learned how to copy them down to the sentence structure. I was not a writer; I was an indoctrinated soul.

But as time went on, my diction grew more unique. No longer did I try to sound like Jane Austen. I told myself – hey, Samantha, don’t be Jane. Be you. Be inspired by Jane. Do it. Just WRITE.

When I stopped trying to imitate authors, I found a whole new way to write: by being myself. It is horrible to read the same thing twice, so it is only my hope that people will read my writing and feel enlightened simply because I said something differently than the author they read stories from in their AP Literature class. Through a bit of introspection and practicing completely self-generated writing, I learned the art of being a writer instead of a cliché machine.

It took time. I have edited my writing meticulously, wrote actively, stayed aware of my cliché trap, and attempted to be myself through-and-through while writing, even if I was a bit scared of how a piece would turn out. Then I would remember that there is always editing. But writing? It’s boundless. I would tell myself fine then, be cliché, and then change your words at your will. I fought my inner editor for countless pieces, only to unleash her on some of the most cliché articles and poems I have written. I told myself that writing from every corner of my mind, whether it turned out cliché or otherwise, was okay, because it was the only way my writing would improve. Inner editor (I call her Edna) will spice it up after the words go in my Word document. After a while, she came to visit me less, because I finally grew comfortable with writing as me; I wasn’t so cliché after all.

Quiet the inner editor. Don’t worry about being cliché. If you are cliché, fix the problem after you write something. But the chances are, if you write as yourself, you may create the most original pieces of us all.

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Body positivity: the power of ‘sizing up’

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You know that feeling you get when you pull on a pair of pants and you not only look good, but you feel good? Sometimes a nicely-fitting pair of jeans is all you need to feel like the next Tyra Banks. Unfortunately, we don’t all find our jean-soul mates on the first try at the department store, and poor luck can certainly crush our shopping spirits. To amend the situation, I am here to explain the power of sizing up – my trick for feeling fabulous every time I shop.

When I find a new pair of jeans I like, I immediately grab one size higher than my actual size to try on. If you are unsure of your size, eyeball the pants, then grab one size larger.

Usually the outcome of this odd shopping habit goes one of two ways: the pants fit great on the first try, or they are a bit loose. If the first is true, my shopping is over and I am satisfied. If the second is true, I feel great about my body, even a bit empowered, and I try on a size lower.

Now let me make something clear: your mood certainly should not dependent on your size or your ability to go back down to your usual pant size. However, I do believe that how we dress can make us more confident, and I am guilty of throwing on heels just to make myself feel powerful. But remember that this power and strength comes from the inside, your clothes just help bring it out of you.

When I went to Kohl’s one day searching for pants, I grabbed a size 9 instead of my usual 7. The pants, to this day, are one of my favorite pairs; this is because I felt great in them, not because they are my lowest size. Ladies, we need to approach shopping as an opportunity to be confident, expressive, and flaunt what we have. I believe the best way to do this is to size up when necessary, smile, and then be blind about the numbers.

Focus on how you feel in clothes, not on the little number on the tag. No number can do your body justice or measure your worth.

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6 songs you should start your day with

I am no morning person, but if I hear one of these jams blasting at 6AM, you bet your baloney I’m going to dance my way out of bed.

1. Roar by Katy Perry

“Roar” is not only empowering for (newly single and proud) females, but it has a great “thumping” beat that will get you shaking your body even before you roll out of bed. If you aren’t roaring like a lion by the last chorus, you aren’t waking up right.

2. 22 by Taylor Swift

I don’t know about you, but I’m feeling (a bit shy of) 22. Nonetheless, this frilly song is a blast to wake up to and may make you want to plan an impromptu sleepover with your friends tonight – dressing up like hipsters is required.

3. Titanium by David Guetta ft. Sia

Doesn’t everyone want to wake up feeling invincible? This song has a slower, lighter start, but don’t hit the snooze button just yet: the signature David Guetta chorus and potent vocals of Sia are bound to make you feel able to conquer anything.

4. Dark Horse by Katy Perry ft. Jessie J

“Dark Horse” is another one of those club-worthy, totally twerk-able tracks. While I don’t recommend twerking in your Mickey Mouse pajamas – as you may obtain minor back injuries and a bruised self confidence – listening to the tune is a funky way to wake up ready to party (or work, or go to school. Life is the party you make of it).

5. Clarity by Zedd ft. Foxes

Clarity has a light and sweet beginning. Then… wait for it… BASS DROP. VIOLENT FIST PUMPING. Transport your brain to Lollapalooza or a Zedd-infested rave and take a crack at squeaking out Foxes’ philosophical questions: “So – why are you my clarity?”

 

6. Applause by Lady Gaga

Some of you may not go “goo goo” over Gaga. That is understandable. What isn’t understandable is why someone wouldn’t be able to wake up to this song – particularly the musical-strobe-light chorus. Give me the thing that I love… this tune. At 6AM. And a meat dress. Actually no, hold the meat.

What’s better: these songs or my motto “you bet your baloney”? Leave a comment below with how you start your day (especially if music is involved).