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Race Privilege: Does it exist?

Race Privilege: Does it exist?

Typically, I shy away from topics where one race is pitted against another, however, over the last few weeks I have seen white privilege vs. black judgement. Take the US Olympic team for instance. You have Ryan Lochte and Gabrielle Douglas, two Olympians. Two amazing athletes extremely dominate in gymnastics and swimming. One [Douglas] admonished for not showing patriotism, while the other coddled for their bad behavior [Lochte]. Gabby Douglas, an African American woman and four-time Olympic gold medalist ridiculed from her hairstyle, her patriotism, and her love for the country she’s representing. During a time where we should be cheering these athletes on, some choose the internet bullying route.

Douglas/Getty Images

Douglas/Getty Images

Meanwhile, Ryan Lochte lies, embarrassing himself, his family, and his country. The Olympic committee suggested we should give him a pass–oh he’s a kid making mistakes. Stop it! Ryan is a 32-year-old man who should be held accountable for this bad behavior. Still, the difference between Ryan and Gabby. Ryan is white. So when we say “white privilege” we mean white people getting a preverbal pass. Ryan showed zero patriotism when he hightailed a flight [I’m sure at the advice of lawyers] back from Rio to the US leaving his buddies behind to take the fall; never fully apologizing or assume responsibility for his lies. Still, some [Billy Bush] in the media justified his actions. Gabby didn’t put her hand over her heart during the National Anthem (by the way, if you have a military background we either salute or stand at attention) social media dragging her through the mud.

The "Final Five" on August 9, 2016 in Olympic Village Rio de Janeiro, Brazil. Getty Images

The “Final Five” on August 9, 2016, in Olympic Village Rio de Janeiro, Brazil. Getty Images

When the National Anthem is played or sung (Proper Etiquette):

  1. Designation: The composition consisting of the words and music known as the Star-Spangled Banner is the national anthem.
  2. Conduct During Playing: During a rendition of the national anthem:
    1. When the flag is displayed:
      1. individuals in uniform should give the military salute at the first note of the anthem and maintain that position until the last note;
      2. members of the Armed Forces and veterans who are present but not in uniform may render the military salute in the manner provided for individuals in uniform; and
      3. all other person’s present should face the flag and stand at attention with their right hand over the heart, and men not in uniform, if applicable, should remove their headdress with their right hand and hold it at the left shoulder, the hand being over the heart; and when the flag is not displayed, all present should face toward the music and act, in the same manner, they would if the flag were displayed.
Matt Lauer Interview/NBC News

Matt Lauer Interview/NBC News

America something isn’t right with this picture. It’s wasn’t very patriotic of Lochte when he lied to his country about being attacked and held at gunpoint. He has stated he is remorseful for his “shenanigans.” I sincerely hope Ryan truly changes his actions, stop blaming the Brazilian people for your petulant ways. He receives a wake-up call of sorts this week. His lost all four of his sponsorships—Speedo and Ralph Lauren. In closing, it’s not my nature to bully anyone; I don’t condone it at all. However, in this case, we should support both Douglas and Lochte—we are a nation of unity, there is no need for a divide.

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Always candid,

Elle

Life and Death: Twilight Reimagined

Life and Death: Twilight Reimagined

Yesterday marked the tenth anniversary for the insanely popular Twilight novel, the first book in the series by Stephenie Meyer. Instead of releasing a new cover and foreword. Meyers reworked the entire novel from a boys prospective. Beau the boy version of Bella is supposed to show that Bella wasn’t just a “damsel in distress.” She wants the reader to know that boys need rescuing as well. But did she need to rewrite the entire novel? Meyers wanted readers know that the situation could play out the same if the human was a boy and the vampire was a girl. Beau (Edward) and Edythe (Bella) basically live the exact same life only in reverse roles. Some good news–Charlie and Renee are Beau’s parents and Julie is the girl version of Jacob. I’m not alone when I ask why she didn’t finish Midnight Sun, Twilight from Edwards’s point of view? Her forewords quips that their wasn’t enough time to finish that manuscript. But, you had time to rewrite an entire novel? Publishing that manuscript would have been a better surprise for the fans.

Could you imagine Edward as the clumsy and petulant Bella? Or Bella as the mercurial Edward? Nope, me either. I love the girl power (Yay women!) aspect just not the names. The cover is cool. I like the green apple vs. the red from the first book. By the way I don’t plan on reading this book.You can check out the first few chapters on Amazon. I stepped off the Twilight train after Breaking Dawn and I have no desire to return to this series. I felt the need to speak out on the topic. I’m still trying to force myself to finish Grey: Fifty Shades of Grey as Told By Christian Grey. Exercise caution if you purchase that one it will depress you. I get the point, she wants to celebrate her milestone. Great! Just don’t change the story on us. Back to these names…I’m being petty, but there are better names than “Edythe” and “Beau”. Yes, the names represent a different era, but if you’re changing the names at least come up with catchy names. I can’t see myself daydreaming about “Beau”.The upside to this madness is getting two books for the price of one. Twilight Reimagined comes with the original novel. I agree with Meyers when she stated this will open the doors for new twilight fans. I’m a strong advocate for childhood literacy promoting reading in children of all age is very important to me. I don’t think the novel needed a rewrite. The fans are in agreement with my assertion. The upside to this madness is getting two books for the price of one. Twilight Reimagined comes with the original novel. Maybe Midnight Sun will get published. I won’t hold my breath on that one.

I agree with Meyers when she stated this will open the doors for new twilight fans. I’m a strong advocate for childhood literacy promoting reading in children of all age is very important to me. I don’t think the novel needed a rewrite. The fans are in agreement with my assertion. Again, can we PLEASE get Midnight Sun? I loved this saga as it gave me a reason to read again. It took me a day in a half to finish the first novel. I was hooked on the series. New Moon wasn’t my favorite to read. The avid reader and twilight fan in me is having a hard time with this new information. Yes, my name is Elle Henry and I was a Twi-hard! Don’t repeat that to anyone else. Just kidding! The writing was not up to par with J.K. Rowling’s . I knew the plot was unrealistic. Stephenie Meyer has a knack for telling stories. Again, who cares about the writing that’s not what reading is all about. Books form a sense of escapism from real life problems. That’s the main reason people love books. I don’t know if Life and Death: Twilight Reimagined will live up to its predecessor, it sure is garnering a ton of publicity. Anyway happy anniversary Twilight I imagine we will be talking about this novel in another ten years. I guess I should stay tuned for Fifty Shades of Steele…Nah—I can’t imagine Christian as a submissive.

Candid Always,

Elle

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Josh Duggar: Does he deserve forgiveness?

When I heard about this latest revelation from the Duggar family, I can’t say that I wasn’t too shocked about it. Now I’m not saying that I wasn’t a fan of the show I was; however there was always that thought in the back of my mind that something wasn’t up to par. Its fine if you want to have 137 19 kids it’s not our responsibility to judge your reproduction. I as many people tend to have voiced their negative feeling towards the Duggars solely because they’re very vocal about how they live often criticizing those who go against their beliefs. You believing in procreating is fine that doesn’t mean everyone will share the same notion or are less than human if they have a different opinion. What I did find odd the many people online agreeing that he should somehow get a “forgiveness pass” because he repented for crimes he should have been punished for. My opinion wouldn’t be so vocal if that family wasn’t big hypocrites. You can promote family values and hid the fact that you son has exhibit vile behavior.

Photo Credit: Duggar Family Blog

Photo Credit: Duggar Family Blog

This family is very discriminatory, especially the rights of LGBT and women’s abortion rights, women should have the right to choose and the LGBT community should have the same civil rights as all Americans. Michelle Duggar made a robocall against ordnance 119 opposing the anti-discrimination law in her state. She voiced last year that “The Fayetteville City Council is voting on an ordinance this Tuesday night that would allow men – yes I said men – to use women’s and girls restrooms, locker rooms, showers, sleeping areas and other areas that are designated for females only.” I don’t believe that Mrs. Duggar understands child predatory laws, if a person is convicted as a sex offender they aren’t allow around children period. They would remain on the child sex offender list forever making it illegal to be around children. Her statement was null and void; the message was discriminatory in nature aiming solely towards the gay community. You can use the family values line of morality then discriminate. By the way the ordnance was later repealed in December.

 

Photo Credit: DANNY JOHNSTON/AP

Photo Credit: DANNY JOHNSTON/AP

I found this stance odd considering the entire Duggar clan knew that Josh had molested five girls, four of the alleged girls are Duggars with the fifth girl unknown (victims names redacted, report shows four of the victims lived in the Duggar home). Josh made a statement to the public via People Magazine admitting to the accusations saying that he “acted inexcusably for which I am extremely sorry and deeply regret.” He would then turn to his parents who sought out help from the church Elders, then notifying a Police Officer family friend. That police office is now serving time for child pornography. Jim Bob Duggar refused to let authorities question Josh on the alleged accusations. Josh apologized to the church then sent away for “Counseling” which turned in to the accused Duggar working on a construction site of another family friend for three months. Duggar never received the profession help he needed, as the family would turn again to faith “relying on God more than ever.

As a Christian I believe in redemption, no judgment there. Many people have redeeming qualities; it seems to me there was zero redemption and a lot of lies to the public. If you commit a crime you should be punished especially when it involves the safety of minor child. Josh Duggar committed a crime that his family tried to cover up. These allegations came out nine years ago after an email was sent to The Oprah Winfrey Show the day before the family were due to appear. Winfrey cancelled the appearance forwarding the email to the authorities.

My problem is do we excuse this and give him a pass? Personally, I say no. We as humans can agree to disagree on many things this subject I stand firm. I liked this show due to its preconceived family values and love of the God. He’s being treated by some as a victim; he is not the girls he alleged molested are the real victims here. I don’t think the entire family should be punished the other kids aren’t to blame here. The parents and son are to blame here. I’m mad as a mother of a young daughter. If Josh Duggar were a normal person out of the spotlight there wouldn’t be pause for further questions. He would have been punished.

Duggar with wife Anna and Kids. Photo Credit: PEOPLE MAGAZINE

Duggar, wife Anna and Kids.
Photo Credit: PEOPLE MAGAZINE

TLC should take a stance doing what is right by canceling 19 Kids and Counting. I believe TLC knew about these alleged accusations doing nothing because this show was a cash cow for the network. So far reruns for 19 Kids and Counting are pull from the networks current program. But the fate of the show is still in the air. Many sponsors like General Mills have pulled their advertising from the show. More are expected to follow.  This situation pangs me something terrible, this was a show I could watch with my children in lieu of the many terrible reality shows on television. All families have secrets and issues; to me this family perpetrated a fraudulent life to the public. My grandmother always said “what you do in the dark, will come to light…” I guess this is an awakening moment for the Duggar family. I can’t speak for every viewer, this former viewer can no longer support this show or family. I pray for the victims they aren’t at fault here, just victims of circumstance.  That’s my opinion for now.

Always Candid,

Elle

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Thank you Shonda Rhimes…

Thank you Shonda Rhimes…

Going into this season of Grey’s I was very unsure. I felt that it lacked the chemistry from seasons past. I wasn’t invested after Sandra Oh departed and I knew the series was going to take a hit with its audience once it moved to the new 8:00 time slot. It wasn’t the juicy show I loved and craved to watch from years ago with McSteamy in the towel and now with death of McDreamy I can go without it permanently. I don’t know or care to get to know the new cast and lets face it there is NO Mer without Der! Grey’s Anatomy used to be my staple Shondaland show from producer Shonda Rhimes. I have been a fan since the beginning, even though Shonda has managed to drag me through the five stages of grief by killing off some of my favorite characters (Denny and Sloan to name a few) also managing to ruin many of my birthdays with her dramatic season finales (My birthday is in May) by killing off some of my favorite characters (Little Grey). I sorry I already said that, blame it on the grieving. I’m accepting starbucks coffee until May 31th to get through this loss :-)

Photo abc.go.com

                      Photo abc.go.com

So imagine my angst last Thursday night when I get a Google alert from E! News That Patrick Dempsey is GOING TO BE KILLED OFF! Totally not impressed. I thought to myself “Self you are not going to chase that pavement, because Shonda is not going to ruin yet another birthday for you.” (Ode to Adele) Oh how wrong was I sitting in front of my TV yelling “Shut up!” profusely, because yet again another one of my favorite characters was dead. I couldn’t speak for an hour. I messaged my friend Sylvia (a Grey’s fan) and she was just as upset. I needed someone to talk it out with. Then I turned to twitter. Twitter was just as upset, then I read the press release from her and Patrick and I while I understand the necessity in the situation. This is not #HeiglGate (Sorry Katherine) we as fans deserve a fair warning and Patrick deserved better than a what he was giving after eleven seasons. Sandra Oh had a whole season devoted to her departure last year and quite frankly it was a complete snooze fest I could have. By the way good job Sandra you jump ship earlier this show is finished.

Here are a few times Shonda has put my life through the ringer:

  • Episode: “Losing My Religion” Denny dying (Pregnant Tears)- (May 15, 2005, my birthday thanks!)
  • Episode: ”Flight” May 17, 2010 Lexi dying (Serious tears)
  • Episode: “How to Save a life” April 23, 2015-(DEREK DYING I QUIT!)

 

Courtesy Clashdaily.com

             Courtesy Clashdaily.com

At a time in my life when I’m losing faith in television I needed to depend on my staple shows. Now I’m being force to move on and it hurts. Watching tonight’s two hour show was SERIOUSLY harsh. I hated it. It seemed rushed, jumbled and everyone was miserable. Plus, my daughter looked at me like an idiot as I cried like a baby over a fictitious character. I can’t blame her I would have done the same. Only I invested eleven years of my life into this show, I was pregnant her on bed rest watching this show crying emotionally pregnant tears over Denny’s death ON MY BIRTHDAY during the season finale in 2005. I fell in love with Adele on the season finale of 2008 when I first heard “Hometown Glory”. I cheered with Mer when she begged Derek in the OR to “Pick Me, Choose Me, Love Me” over Addison. I was the twenty something girl who drank tequila and danced badly to 80’s music… I identified with Meredith (Except the promiscuity #NoJudgement lol). I understand you are the show runner and you don’t tolerate “Diva antics”; however I have watched you kill too many characters on this show and I just can’t watch it anymore. Also, why did you have to kill JJ last night? That was just mean! I must move on, I needed a drink after this episode a really strong drink and some Chipotle. My heart muscle is irretrievable broken. So I’m gonna go listen to Otis Redding, cry a river or something and remember the good times. At least I have the reruns. Thanks a lot Shonda I can’t forgive you, not even with Scandal.

I give you my two weeks notice.

Signed a truly upset fan,

Elle

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