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Race Privilege: Does it exist?

Race Privilege: Does it exist?

Typically, I shy away from topics where one race is pitted against another, however, over the last few weeks I have seen white privilege vs. black judgement. Take the US Olympic team for instance. You have Ryan Lochte and Gabrielle Douglas, two Olympians. Two amazing athletes extremely dominate in gymnastics and swimming. One [Douglas] admonished for not showing patriotism, while the other coddled for their bad behavior [Lochte]. Gabby Douglas, an African American woman and four-time Olympic gold medalist ridiculed from her hairstyle, her patriotism, and her love for the country she’s representing. During a time where we should be cheering these athletes on, some choose the internet bullying route.

Douglas/Getty Images

Douglas/Getty Images

Meanwhile, Ryan Lochte lies, embarrassing himself, his family, and his country. The Olympic committee suggested we should give him a pass–oh he’s a kid making mistakes. Stop it! Ryan is a 32-year-old man who should be held accountable for this bad behavior. Still, the difference between Ryan and Gabby. Ryan is white. So when we say “white privilege” we mean white people getting a preverbal pass. Ryan showed zero patriotism when he hightailed a flight [I’m sure at the advice of lawyers] back from Rio to the US leaving his buddies behind to take the fall; never fully apologizing or assume responsibility for his lies. Still, some [Billy Bush] in the media justified his actions. Gabby didn’t put her hand over her heart during the National Anthem (by the way, if you have a military background we either salute or stand at attention) social media dragging her through the mud.

The "Final Five" on August 9, 2016 in Olympic Village Rio de Janeiro, Brazil. Getty Images

The “Final Five” on August 9, 2016, in Olympic Village Rio de Janeiro, Brazil. Getty Images

When the National Anthem is played or sung (Proper Etiquette):

  1. Designation: The composition consisting of the words and music known as the Star-Spangled Banner is the national anthem.
  2. Conduct During Playing: During a rendition of the national anthem:
    1. When the flag is displayed:
      1. individuals in uniform should give the military salute at the first note of the anthem and maintain that position until the last note;
      2. members of the Armed Forces and veterans who are present but not in uniform may render the military salute in the manner provided for individuals in uniform; and
      3. all other person’s present should face the flag and stand at attention with their right hand over the heart, and men not in uniform, if applicable, should remove their headdress with their right hand and hold it at the left shoulder, the hand being over the heart; and when the flag is not displayed, all present should face toward the music and act, in the same manner, they would if the flag were displayed.
Matt Lauer Interview/NBC News

Matt Lauer Interview/NBC News

America something isn’t right with this picture. It’s wasn’t very patriotic of Lochte when he lied to his country about being attacked and held at gunpoint. He has stated he is remorseful for his “shenanigans.” I sincerely hope Ryan truly changes his actions, stop blaming the Brazilian people for your petulant ways. He receives a wake-up call of sorts this week. His lost all four of his sponsorships—Speedo and Ralph Lauren. In closing, it’s not my nature to bully anyone; I don’t condone it at all. However, in this case, we should support both Douglas and Lochte—we are a nation of unity, there is no need for a divide.

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Yes, All lives matter; but Blacks lives are affected.

Yes, All lives matter; but Blacks lives are affected.

I sat on this blog post for awhile, mainly because I was angry at the senseless killing of black people and the tragic deaths of cops actually serving and protecting our cities. As of recently, the hashtag Black Lives Matter term has taken a negative toll on the African American community. A movement started to uplift and inform has turned into a state of reckless. The initial point of this movement is lost. I hope you enjoy my opinions [these are mine alone].

When black people say ‪#BlackLivesMatter it’s in reference to black people dying at the hands of cops who should be protecting and serving them not murdering them. It’s a little naive to think that all lives should matter in a situation where all lives aren’t affected. Black people have always had a disadvantage because of the color of our skin. If a white person walked one mile [they won’t] in the shoes of a black man unfairly profiled by the cops, or a black mother burying her young black son then I will change my position. The horrific murders of those cops is heart breaking and very saddening and there is zero just case for killing those cops— just like there was no justification for killing Trayvon, Tamir, Mike, Sandra, Alton and Philando.

Why is it when we chant “Black Lives Matter” people find a way to attached a negative connotation? As if Black people are stating “Only Black Lives Matter”. Understand that every living breathing organism has a right to live and all human lives do matter. Except when a Black man is murdered senselessly based on none other than the fact that he is black. What are we supposed to say? Black lives are the only lives being targeted and gunned down at an extremely high rate. When are we going to wake up and realize we are living a state of injustice. Our dreams of freedom are still deferred, even though we have come far since Lincoln’s proclamation, the thirteenth amendment and Brown vs. Board of Education we are far from free. We reside in the most powerful nation in the land—yet black people are still bearing the shackles from our ancestors. When will the change come? Will we ever have equality? I remember a line from the movie The Color Purple, “folks don’t like black people acting to proud or to free.” Acting proud and too free will land you six feet under in 1916 and now 2016.

Don’t tell me “All Lives Matter” when statistics are steadily showing one particular race targeted far more than the other. It’s a clear case of cops with superior attitudes trying to once more make black people feel inferior. The difference is they hide behind a badge with the mindset they are “Serving and Protecting”. How many white men have brutally attacked cops living now? The majority of them. Now let’s flip that equation. How many black men have died for far less reasons? We have seen in the matter of a week two black men murdered on video. We don’t need an “All Lives Matter” hashtag—all lives aren’t dying; BLACK people are dying. People stop trying to be politically correct and take a stance.