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Listen, Lena, listen!

Listen, Lena, listen!

Usually, I shy away from discussing women (I’m lying, I discuss everything!). There’s something about Lena that isn’t quite right.Maybe it’s celebrity status or just an expression of first amendments rights. Whatever it is, I’m not feeling it. As a woman, I will always cheer for our rights, and speak out when we are wrong (we’re right most of the time). I didn’t want to portray a negative attitude in this blog; however, I feel Lena has rubbed me the wrong way again with her no holds barred comments. Since the release of her memoir Not That Kind of Girl, I have failed to understand the candor of this woman. I figured she was just an angry, entitled smarty pants living off of white privilege. From a writer’s point of view, she doesn’t appeal to me, primarily because her writing as a whole doesn’t represent me or feminism in general.  Now, before you verbally thrash me—I love white people! I’m married to one of the coolest of the bunch. Still, I content that Dunham’s suffering from white privilege because she can literally justify molesting her little sister and America just turns a cheek. Her novel was a bestseller by the way. My gripe for her is based on the negativity she cast towards New York Giants player Odell Beckman, Jr. In one of her Lenny Letter newsletter rants, she interviews Amy Schumer, they both grieved about the fashionably self-indulgent MET Ball, a very pretentious annual event hosted by Vogue’s Editor in Chief Anna Wintour. Both women whined about not wanting to go to said Ball, pledging never to go again. It seemed a bit unnecessary and trivial to cry over a Ball that happened months ago. Most women in America would love to shake hands with A-list entertainers, while negative Nancy and Co. boo-hoo about not ‘fitting in’. You’re not there to fit in, who cares.

Apology courtesy of Lena Dunham Twitter.

Apology courtesy of Lena Dunham Twitter.

Dunham complained that the NFL Wide receiver wasn’t giving her enough attention at their dinner table. She implied, “the vibe was very much like, ‘Do I want to f**** it? Is it wearing a … yep, it’s wearing a tuxedo. I’m going to go back to my cellphone,’” I honestly don’t believe Beckham was trying to slight her as a woman, maybe he was just as bored with the Ball as well. The writer/actress of HBO series Girls then continued with, “It was like we were forced to be together, and he literally was scrolling Instagram rather than have to look at a woman in a bow tie. I was like, ‘This should be called the Metropolitan Museum of Getting Rejected by Athletes’.” That’s a very broad and judgmental statement to make about someone you’ve never conversed with, and Twitter wasn’t happy with her comments either—lighting her a new a******  for being a racist, which she later apologized for her remarks. She compared her looks to that of a marshmallow, and a young child, very self-deprecating. Now, I don’t think Lena Dunham is a racist. I believe she has a strong case of foot in mouth disease.

Photo Courtesy of Odell Beckman Twitter

Photo Courtesy of Odell Beckman Twitter

Listen, I believe in girl power and women sticking together, but I also believe in telling fellow women the truth. I thought we were in the 21st century? We aren’t bound by the laws of coverture anymore, we have voices, we are strong willed, and men do not make or break our self-esteem. Learn to use your voice wisely without creating judgment and chaos in an innocent person’s life. Doesn’t she have a boyfriend at home? Why does she care if he didn’t want to sleep with her? It’s sad, she has a massive platform as a feminist, yet, she knocked us back a couple of decades with her statements last week. I just want to say to Listen Lena, listen! Stop projecting your low self-esteem onto the than willing It’s sad, unfortunate and tragic. I assume her rants are due to the public giving celebrities a general pass to say whatever they feel without recourse. Someone should revoke that privilege; it’s utterly annoying most of the time.

 

(Neither Amy Schumer or Odell Beckman, Jr have spoken out about said comments.)

 

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Race Privilege: Does it exist?

Race Privilege: Does it exist?

Typically, I shy away from topics where one race is pitted against another, however, over the last few weeks I have seen white privilege vs. black judgement. Take the US Olympic team for instance. You have Ryan Lochte and Gabrielle Douglas, two Olympians. Two amazing athletes extremely dominate in gymnastics and swimming. One [Douglas] admonished for not showing patriotism, while the other coddled for their bad behavior [Lochte]. Gabby Douglas, an African American woman and four-time Olympic gold medalist ridiculed from her hairstyle, her patriotism, and her love for the country she’s representing. During a time where we should be cheering these athletes on, some choose the internet bullying route.

Douglas/Getty Images

Douglas/Getty Images

Meanwhile, Ryan Lochte lies, embarrassing himself, his family, and his country. The Olympic committee suggested we should give him a pass–oh he’s a kid making mistakes. Stop it! Ryan is a 32-year-old man who should be held accountable for this bad behavior. Still, the difference between Ryan and Gabby. Ryan is white. So when we say “white privilege” we mean white people getting a preverbal pass. Ryan showed zero patriotism when he hightailed a flight [I’m sure at the advice of lawyers] back from Rio to the US leaving his buddies behind to take the fall; never fully apologizing or assume responsibility for his lies. Still, some [Billy Bush] in the media justified his actions. Gabby didn’t put her hand over her heart during the National Anthem (by the way, if you have a military background we either salute or stand at attention) social media dragging her through the mud.

The "Final Five" on August 9, 2016 in Olympic Village Rio de Janeiro, Brazil. Getty Images

The “Final Five” on August 9, 2016, in Olympic Village Rio de Janeiro, Brazil. Getty Images

When the National Anthem is played or sung (Proper Etiquette):

  1. Designation: The composition consisting of the words and music known as the Star-Spangled Banner is the national anthem.
  2. Conduct During Playing: During a rendition of the national anthem:
    1. When the flag is displayed:
      1. individuals in uniform should give the military salute at the first note of the anthem and maintain that position until the last note;
      2. members of the Armed Forces and veterans who are present but not in uniform may render the military salute in the manner provided for individuals in uniform; and
      3. all other person’s present should face the flag and stand at attention with their right hand over the heart, and men not in uniform, if applicable, should remove their headdress with their right hand and hold it at the left shoulder, the hand being over the heart; and when the flag is not displayed, all present should face toward the music and act, in the same manner, they would if the flag were displayed.
Matt Lauer Interview/NBC News

Matt Lauer Interview/NBC News

America something isn’t right with this picture. It’s wasn’t very patriotic of Lochte when he lied to his country about being attacked and held at gunpoint. He has stated he is remorseful for his “shenanigans.” I sincerely hope Ryan truly changes his actions, stop blaming the Brazilian people for your petulant ways. He receives a wake-up call of sorts this week. His lost all four of his sponsorships—Speedo and Ralph Lauren. In closing, it’s not my nature to bully anyone; I don’t condone it at all. However, in this case, we should support both Douglas and Lochte—we are a nation of unity, there is no need for a divide.

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Elle

Yes, All lives matter; but Blacks lives are affected.

Yes, All lives matter; but Blacks lives are affected.

I sat on this blog post for awhile, mainly because I was angry at the senseless killing of black people and the tragic deaths of cops actually serving and protecting our cities. As of recently, the hashtag Black Lives Matter term has taken a negative toll on the African American community. A movement started to uplift and inform has turned into a state of reckless. The initial point of this movement is lost. I hope you enjoy my opinions [these are mine alone].

When black people say ‪#BlackLivesMatter it’s in reference to black people dying at the hands of cops who should be protecting and serving them not murdering them. It’s a little naive to think that all lives should matter in a situation where all lives aren’t affected. Black people have always had a disadvantage because of the color of our skin. If a white person walked one mile [they won’t] in the shoes of a black man unfairly profiled by the cops, or a black mother burying her young black son then I will change my position. The horrific murders of those cops is heart breaking and very saddening and there is zero just case for killing those cops— just like there was no justification for killing Trayvon, Tamir, Mike, Sandra, Alton and Philando.

Why is it when we chant “Black Lives Matter” people find a way to attached a negative connotation? As if Black people are stating “Only Black Lives Matter”. Understand that every living breathing organism has a right to live and all human lives do matter. Except when a Black man is murdered senselessly based on none other than the fact that he is black. What are we supposed to say? Black lives are the only lives being targeted and gunned down at an extremely high rate. When are we going to wake up and realize we are living a state of injustice. Our dreams of freedom are still deferred, even though we have come far since Lincoln’s proclamation, the thirteenth amendment and Brown vs. Board of Education we are far from free. We reside in the most powerful nation in the land—yet black people are still bearing the shackles from our ancestors. When will the change come? Will we ever have equality? I remember a line from the movie The Color Purple, “folks don’t like black people acting to proud or to free.” Acting proud and too free will land you six feet under in 1916 and now 2016.

Don’t tell me “All Lives Matter” when statistics are steadily showing one particular race targeted far more than the other. It’s a clear case of cops with superior attitudes trying to once more make black people feel inferior. The difference is they hide behind a badge with the mindset they are “Serving and Protecting”. How many white men have brutally attacked cops living now? The majority of them. Now let’s flip that equation. How many black men have died for far less reasons? We have seen in the matter of a week two black men murdered on video. We don’t need an “All Lives Matter” hashtag—all lives aren’t dying; BLACK people are dying. People stop trying to be politically correct and take a stance.

My Political Voice Matters..But I Choose To Stay Silent

My Political Voice Matters..But I Choose To Stay Silent

People naturally assume by gender or skin tone, which way a person should/would vote. Well—every time I’m challenged on this notion and I prove their assumption incorrect. This issue initially started when we first elected President Barack Obama. I was personally attacked and viciously accused (online and by friends) of not having a voice or choice voting solely on emotion, not the college education I held. As simpleminded as it sounds it was true. People think minorities are unintelligent. Oh—I have held many conversations with a few people who believe such nonsense. It’s the primary reason I chose not to discuss certain subjects publicly anymore.

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Among those subjects are religion and politics.  Why? I respect the opinions of others, it’s maddening at times the same respect isn’t reflected, it just creates unnecessary problems. I don’t know about your time; however I refuse to argue when I could be at Starbucks for happy hour. Again, I will vote I just won’t be as vocal about my selection—that’s still private (and undecided) to me. A few of my friends have noticed my silence, so I felt a strong urging to justified my pause. I’ve seen a lot of post via social media just down right disgusting. People feel the need to bash the candidates rather than find a common ground on what is actually wrong with our country, electing an able person to right the wrongs. Fighting will not solve anything.

Many of these serial posters are uninformed on the issues point the finger at the current president (btw I like my gas under $2). In my brutally honest opinion—again the one that I am entitled to; I happen to believe if you can’t identify the three branches of government (Executive, Legislative, and Judicial) and their purpose or understand how the Electoral College works you shouldn’t be discussing politics. Also, I will definitely faze you out if you aren’t registered to vote.

What I have realized is there is still undercover racism (on both sides) sitting at our dinner table. One thing about me I will never (I hate that word) judge a person for their personal beliefs or political stance, we all have first amendment right to freedom of speech. So, when I see people post stuff bashing one side of the political spectrum while uplifting another it makes me very sad. Why do people claim “first amendment” when they don’t value someone’s opinion. For now I will remain silent voting quietly. All I ask is you give due diligence to everyone who is entitled to an opinion.

Always Candid and Honest,

Elle

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Are you a reason or season?

Are you a reason or season?

Are you a reason or a season?

 

It is very hard kicking someone out of your life, especially when there’s history. Do you just forget the person and the memories? No, you should always cherish the memories you held them close for a reason. Sometimes you have to let go of the negative energy in order to embrace the positive. People are placed in your life for a reason or a season. A reason is a friend that you learn from, who will always have your back, and never let you down. A season is someone I would consider a friend, rather an associate that you learn from. A season is a temporary position just like the change from fall to winter. It was such a challenging experience letting this person go because she always pulled at my heartstrings. I was her protector; it didn’t matter if we went years without seeing each other we picked up right where we left off.

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Eleanor Roosevelt once said that many people will walk in and out of your life, but real friends will leave footprints on your heart. That quote has resonated with me from the first time I read it. I have applied it to all the relationships I’ve had since with others. Friendship is something that I cherish; if I consider you a friend we will have a bond forever. Many of my friends I have know since childhood, and it’s a privilege to have them in my life. But there was a period in time that I made the hardest decision of letting go of a cherished best friend. This person was more than just a friend she was like a sister to me. Now don’t get me wrong I believe in giving a person a second and third chance to redeem themselves but I don’t like to be made into a fool.
AdeleOur downfall began when I had a very painful life event happened and my “friend” chose the side of my tormentor. At first, I thought maybe she didn’t understand that this hurt me. So, I decided to have a conversation with her about it. After all we had be friends since middle school. Well—that conversation went sour causing more friction. We wouldn’t talk again for five years. She came to town a year ago deciding to reach out to me. I was hesitant seeking counsel from my mother, she told me to give her the benefit of the doubt. I did after all we had been friends since we were kids. One thing I had to realize is were aren’t obligated to continue a friendship with someone who causes you personal aguish. I agreed to have a conversation with this person, and it’s something I will forever regret doing. As an adult you are responsible for your own actions if life doesn’t go your way. This person assumed I would be there when I had proven many times over that I would. In fact as I write this blog I feel somewhat protective of the relationship we had. We had a conversation that appeared to linger in the positive direction we both parties accepting their part in the demise of the relationship; until we discussed the root of the problem. This person wanted to deflect all the negative towards me. That’s when I decided that enough was enough. She wasn’t adult enough to see the error of her ways, and I was no longer willing to be the fall guy. I had to love her from a distance, which hurt me, but it was the only healthy solution I could find. The saddest part is I often miss her tremendously, but it’s the memory of a lost friendship I will continue to cherish.

Losing a friend sucks!

P.S. I would give her a big hug today if I saw her. I just need her to understand her part in our tragedy.

Elle

 

 

Making the words count

Throughout my entire writing career the one question that I continuously get asked is “How do you make time to write?” There really isn’t a proper way to answer that. You could lie and say you make time to write everyday. Not true! Most of the time I find myself sitting at my desk daydreaming or playing Candy Crush (No judgment zone); but many writers tell it! I assume it’s a tool to make ourselves feel as if we are contributing to society. When I was younger I always had a subject to write about, the words came naturally to me. My writing wasn’t forced because I was writing for myself to clear my thoughts. Later on when I started professionally writing time became important. I couldn’t write during the day there were too many distractions i.e. kids, significant other, and (again) Facebook games.

Finding your writing groove…

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Growing up in the late eighties, early nighties (age spoiler) during my years of smelling like teenage spirit angst—I kept a journal. Yes, that’s how my career as a writer began. I had no one to really talk to. I was the girl with glasses who visited the public library A LOT! I wrote down every thought that came to mind whether it was good or bad. Oh—it was real fun having my parents read my eleventh grade journal. Lets just say my words were very descriptive. I ended up eating a bar of ivory soap!

Or not…

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Photo Courtesy of
Walkingthewrittenpath.wordpress.com

Becoming a consistent writer requires planning and determination. Writing everyday does assist in finding a writing voice. Once you establish a pattern, the words will flow. One of my favorite writer’s Stephen King said in his writing memoir On Writing, Writing is about getting happy. “Writing isn’t about making money, getting famous, getting dates, getting laid or making friends. Writing is magic, as much as the water of life as any other creative art. The water is free. So drink.” Writing cannot be forced. However, you could seek activities to stimulate your creativity like joining a weekly writing group or taking a writing class to help boost your writing.

Here are a few tips to help get your creative juices flowing:

  1. Write for yourself.
  2. Find a quiet space with zero distractions (i.e. Facebook, Candy Crush or Instagram).
  3. Buy a journal to jot down candid thoughts.
  4. Finally, write at least 20-30 minutes a day to establish fluency.

Pick up a copy of Stephen’s book On Writing. It’s a must have for every writer.

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Photo Courtesy of Amazon.com

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Life and Death: Twilight Reimagined

Life and Death: Twilight Reimagined

Yesterday marked the tenth anniversary for the insanely popular Twilight novel, the first book in the series by Stephenie Meyer. Instead of releasing a new cover and foreword. Meyers reworked the entire novel from a boys prospective. Beau the boy version of Bella is supposed to show that Bella wasn’t just a “damsel in distress.” She wants the reader to know that boys need rescuing as well. But did she need to rewrite the entire novel? Meyers wanted readers know that the situation could play out the same if the human was a boy and the vampire was a girl. Beau (Edward) and Edythe (Bella) basically live the exact same life only in reverse roles. Some good news–Charlie and Renee are Beau’s parents and Julie is the girl version of Jacob. I’m not alone when I ask why she didn’t finish Midnight Sun, Twilight from Edwards’s point of view? Her forewords quips that their wasn’t enough time to finish that manuscript. But, you had time to rewrite an entire novel? Publishing that manuscript would have been a better surprise for the fans.

Could you imagine Edward as the clumsy and petulant Bella? Or Bella as the mercurial Edward? Nope, me either. I love the girl power (Yay women!) aspect just not the names. The cover is cool. I like the green apple vs. the red from the first book. By the way I don’t plan on reading this book.You can check out the first few chapters on Amazon. I stepped off the Twilight train after Breaking Dawn and I have no desire to return to this series. I felt the need to speak out on the topic. I’m still trying to force myself to finish Grey: Fifty Shades of Grey as Told By Christian Grey. Exercise caution if you purchase that one it will depress you. I get the point, she wants to celebrate her milestone. Great! Just don’t change the story on us. Back to these names…I’m being petty, but there are better names than “Edythe” and “Beau”. Yes, the names represent a different era, but if you’re changing the names at least come up with catchy names. I can’t see myself daydreaming about “Beau”.The upside to this madness is getting two books for the price of one. Twilight Reimagined comes with the original novel. I agree with Meyers when she stated this will open the doors for new twilight fans. I’m a strong advocate for childhood literacy promoting reading in children of all age is very important to me. I don’t think the novel needed a rewrite. The fans are in agreement with my assertion. The upside to this madness is getting two books for the price of one. Twilight Reimagined comes with the original novel. Maybe Midnight Sun will get published. I won’t hold my breath on that one.

I agree with Meyers when she stated this will open the doors for new twilight fans. I’m a strong advocate for childhood literacy promoting reading in children of all age is very important to me. I don’t think the novel needed a rewrite. The fans are in agreement with my assertion. Again, can we PLEASE get Midnight Sun? I loved this saga as it gave me a reason to read again. It took me a day in a half to finish the first novel. I was hooked on the series. New Moon wasn’t my favorite to read. The avid reader and twilight fan in me is having a hard time with this new information. Yes, my name is Elle Henry and I was a Twi-hard! Don’t repeat that to anyone else. Just kidding! The writing was not up to par with J.K. Rowling’s . I knew the plot was unrealistic. Stephenie Meyer has a knack for telling stories. Again, who cares about the writing that’s not what reading is all about. Books form a sense of escapism from real life problems. That’s the main reason people love books. I don’t know if Life and Death: Twilight Reimagined will live up to its predecessor, it sure is garnering a ton of publicity. Anyway happy anniversary Twilight I imagine we will be talking about this novel in another ten years. I guess I should stay tuned for Fifty Shades of Steele…Nah—I can’t imagine Christian as a submissive.

Candid Always,

Elle

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Common Self-Publishing Mistakes

Common Self-Publishing Mistakes

When I published my first book Pieces of Me. I thought, “Man this is going to be easy!” Boy, was I wrong. Self-Publishing means exactly what it is, you are the publisher responsible for writing, editing and marketing your release. You are writing at your own expense. You are the backer verses a traditional publisher would handles everything in house. Yes, there are sites that assist you in the process. Like CreateSpace through Amazon KDP, this is a self-publishing site there to help you from concept to creation. I utilized this site for both of my books. However, my upcoming release and my first are completely different.

Self Made Cover:

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I cut a few corners with my first book. It was the inexperience that I lacked eventually learning an easier way. For instance, I didn’t want to purchase an expensive cover. So, I used CreateSpace’s build your own cover tool. Now mind you that I am no cover artist, this could have turned into a complete disaster. Any writer should know that a good cover will turn a profit. Luckily, I chose a fairly easy theme and cover for that book. I knew I would never do that again. For my next book, More Than Words…I outsourced my cover from a very talented artist who turned out to be fairly reasonable with her pricing. I plan to use her again.

Purchased Cover:

Courtesy of Author Elle Henry.

How many times have you wandered in Barnes and Noble spotting a book with a really neat cover? I have several times. One recent book was The Girl on The Train was a book I didn’t care for particularly; however the cover was subtle and striking. Here’s another confession (keep it between us!) I read Stephenie Meyer’s Twilight Saga and EL James’ Fifty Shades of Grey Trilogy based on the cover art. Don’t judge me readers. I’m just saying even though the story plots were questionable, the cover work was stunning.

Another thing I failed at was the editing and formatting portion. Okay, yes I am an English major; however I can tell you it is very hard to edit your own work. Also, the formatting for your paperback and e-book template has to match. I spent the first night of my launch last year crying in my friend Sylvia’s inbox because my e-book format was off in the margins. Once I resolved that issue I knew this was another mistake I wouldn’t repeat again.

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Photo Writers Life

We are all subject to error in ours lives, we are human. If you want to publish work you are proud of it’s very easy to do and it won’t break your budget.

Here are a few tips that helped me out the second time around:

  1. Copyright your material-If you don’t want to pay the fee to copyright.gov take a copy of your manuscript, email to yourself with the title For Copyright Purposes Only. This is a considered “A Poor Mans Copyright” this is a cheaper way to establish ownership until you register.
  2. Set out a realistic budget for your cover art, editing and formatting fees.
  3. Work with your cover artist to design a cover to fit your genre.
  4. Don’t settle for the first publishing site you find. There are plenty of sites that offer different promotions to fit your budget and your needs.
  5. Set a realistic goal for writing and editing. This isn’t NaNoWriMo you don’t need to stress out over creating a novel in a month. My novel took a year to complete from the original conception.
  6. Check out some of the writing groups on Facebook. There’s a group of every genre. Amazon has a group dedicated to promoting your work.
  7. Use Beta readers to critique your work. I’ll explain how that works in a later blog.
  8. Network! Use social medium to drive your work. I have met some amazing writers, publishers and editors here in Orlando and across the country.
  9. Believe in your goals. Writing requires an idea along with a ton of dedication.
  10. Good luck and happy writing! Remember you have all the tools you need to be successful.

 

This simple tips helped me out a ton. I hope you can take some inspiration for me as I did my writing friends.

Always Candid,

Elle

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You’ve written your novel…now what?

You’ve written your novel…now what?

Creating and publishing a piece of work is considered to be a huge accomplishment. The last year has been an emotional event for me. My first novel titled More Than Words… It focuses on a sixteen year old named Ansley Stevenson with a severe panic disorder from a kidnapping by a drug-abusing aunt when she was a child. Ansley just wants normalcy in a world full of over-bearing parents, psychiatrist and medication. She doesn’t want to be know as “that girl” anymore. I think the hardest part in finishing this novel was the revision of my years as a teenager who just wanted to read books and work in a library. People thought I was weird, because I loved to read so much. Part of me understood the angst this character was dealing with. In this novel I was able to tap into a place of writing that I wasn’t even aware existed. I learned a lot about cognitive therapy and the many way child psychologist effectively treat children with behavioral disorders.

When I decided to pursue this career professionally, I never imagined that I would be in a situation in which I able to publish not one, but two books in the span of 15 months. Now mind you my first release was a series of poems and short stories that allowed more freedom of expression. Working on this new novel has placed me in a situation where I am no longer writing just for my personal gain. I’m writing to gain a following within a specific genre. That’s mainly why I haven’t been blogging as much, this novel has taken up a wonderfully huge amount of my time!

I wanted to create something with a lasting impression I could be truly proud of. Writing I assert is something not easy given, no must truly love this art form. A talent sent from a higher power and its something that takes a ton of research and dedication. Now that I’m in the editing phase of the process, the roller coaster ride that’s become of this journey is winding down. Writing takes on many hats in the creative process, but what do you do once you’ve finished writing? Am I supposed to cheer and celebrate or continue writing. Do I take time out to catch up on current events? Maybe I could read the pile of books that I’ve purchased in the recent months from Barnes and Noble. Maybe I should start that YouTube page that many have suggested? I have to admit that’s a funny idea me writing and rambling online all day!

What am I do? Yes, I eventually would like to write a sequel to this novel. It touches on teenage angst, loss of innocence and the emotional coping of love for the first time. My friends think I should take a break to recharge, but what if I lose time that could be focused on another project. Usually around this time of the year I would be outlining my National Novel Writing Month or NaNoWriMo manuscript. Now I ask myself what is next? Yes, of course there is the process of marketing and promoting this novel. I’m a self-published novelist this huge big business task of publishing relies solely on my shoulders. Whatever I decide to do it will include blogging more. I miss my rants and raving on pop culture and taking to the wonderful people in Orlando!

P.s. my new novel More Than Words… will be available next month via Amazon, Barnes and Nobel and iBook’s. Here’s a peek at the wrap of the cover, I’ll keep you posted on the book release!

Courtesy of Author Elle Henry.

Courtesy of Author Elle Henry.

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Elle <3

 

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Josh Duggar: Does he deserve forgiveness?

When I heard about this latest revelation from the Duggar family, I can’t say that I wasn’t too shocked about it. Now I’m not saying that I wasn’t a fan of the show I was; however there was always that thought in the back of my mind that something wasn’t up to par. Its fine if you want to have 137 19 kids it’s not our responsibility to judge your reproduction. I as many people tend to have voiced their negative feeling towards the Duggars solely because they’re very vocal about how they live often criticizing those who go against their beliefs. You believing in procreating is fine that doesn’t mean everyone will share the same notion or are less than human if they have a different opinion. What I did find odd the many people online agreeing that he should somehow get a “forgiveness pass” because he repented for crimes he should have been punished for. My opinion wouldn’t be so vocal if that family wasn’t big hypocrites. You can promote family values and hid the fact that you son has exhibit vile behavior.

Photo Credit: Duggar Family Blog

Photo Credit: Duggar Family Blog

This family is very discriminatory, especially the rights of LGBT and women’s abortion rights, women should have the right to choose and the LGBT community should have the same civil rights as all Americans. Michelle Duggar made a robocall against ordnance 119 opposing the anti-discrimination law in her state. She voiced last year that “The Fayetteville City Council is voting on an ordinance this Tuesday night that would allow men – yes I said men – to use women’s and girls restrooms, locker rooms, showers, sleeping areas and other areas that are designated for females only.” I don’t believe that Mrs. Duggar understands child predatory laws, if a person is convicted as a sex offender they aren’t allow around children period. They would remain on the child sex offender list forever making it illegal to be around children. Her statement was null and void; the message was discriminatory in nature aiming solely towards the gay community. You can use the family values line of morality then discriminate. By the way the ordnance was later repealed in December.

 

Photo Credit: DANNY JOHNSTON/AP

Photo Credit: DANNY JOHNSTON/AP

I found this stance odd considering the entire Duggar clan knew that Josh had molested five girls, four of the alleged girls are Duggars with the fifth girl unknown (victims names redacted, report shows four of the victims lived in the Duggar home). Josh made a statement to the public via People Magazine admitting to the accusations saying that he “acted inexcusably for which I am extremely sorry and deeply regret.” He would then turn to his parents who sought out help from the church Elders, then notifying a Police Officer family friend. That police office is now serving time for child pornography. Jim Bob Duggar refused to let authorities question Josh on the alleged accusations. Josh apologized to the church then sent away for “Counseling” which turned in to the accused Duggar working on a construction site of another family friend for three months. Duggar never received the profession help he needed, as the family would turn again to faith “relying on God more than ever.

As a Christian I believe in redemption, no judgment there. Many people have redeeming qualities; it seems to me there was zero redemption and a lot of lies to the public. If you commit a crime you should be punished especially when it involves the safety of minor child. Josh Duggar committed a crime that his family tried to cover up. These allegations came out nine years ago after an email was sent to The Oprah Winfrey Show the day before the family were due to appear. Winfrey cancelled the appearance forwarding the email to the authorities.

My problem is do we excuse this and give him a pass? Personally, I say no. We as humans can agree to disagree on many things this subject I stand firm. I liked this show due to its preconceived family values and love of the God. He’s being treated by some as a victim; he is not the girls he alleged molested are the real victims here. I don’t think the entire family should be punished the other kids aren’t to blame here. The parents and son are to blame here. I’m mad as a mother of a young daughter. If Josh Duggar were a normal person out of the spotlight there wouldn’t be pause for further questions. He would have been punished.

Duggar with wife Anna and Kids. Photo Credit: PEOPLE MAGAZINE

Duggar, wife Anna and Kids.
Photo Credit: PEOPLE MAGAZINE

TLC should take a stance doing what is right by canceling 19 Kids and Counting. I believe TLC knew about these alleged accusations doing nothing because this show was a cash cow for the network. So far reruns for 19 Kids and Counting are pull from the networks current program. But the fate of the show is still in the air. Many sponsors like General Mills have pulled their advertising from the show. More are expected to follow.  This situation pangs me something terrible, this was a show I could watch with my children in lieu of the many terrible reality shows on television. All families have secrets and issues; to me this family perpetrated a fraudulent life to the public. My grandmother always said “what you do in the dark, will come to light…” I guess this is an awakening moment for the Duggar family. I can’t speak for every viewer, this former viewer can no longer support this show or family. I pray for the victims they aren’t at fault here, just victims of circumstance.  That’s my opinion for now.

Always Candid,

Elle

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